Your “Perfect Guy” List Lacks The Most Important Thing.
When I was a dating coach, I read a lot of “Perfect Guy” lists.
It’s popular advice in dating coaching: make a list to describe your ideal partner.
I’m not a big fan of it. I like that it clarifies what you’re looking for, but some women get too attached to their descriptions. On top of that, when they find The Guy, but he doesn’t treat them right, they’re willing to accept unbelievable nonsense just because he checks off everything on the list.
That’s why I used to advise my clients to start with a list describing the perfect relationship, not the perfect guy.
But some women insist on their perfect guy lists, even if they’re only in their heads. Okay. If that’s how you want to play it, I won’t argue. I just want to tell you the one thing that’s always missing in a perfect guy list — and it should be priority number one.
He should care about you.
When I was younger, I described my perfect relationship like this: he loves me, I love him. That’s it.
I think it encompasses everything important. If I love him, he must be worth a damn, and if he loves me, he’ll keep making an effort.