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Who Are You: My Best Friend’s Surprising Lesson.
You’re not really looking for love.
My best friend has sacrificed a lot to be with her husband.
They met when they were 16. Throughout their relationship, there are multiple things she gave up to stay with him. She wanted to study in one city but ended up in another — because of him. She wanted to work in the USA for a summer but didn’t — because of him.
Today, they have two children and a thriving business. They’re a happy family, and I can see how it was all worth it. But in my head, that’s too much to give up for a man. It’s like giving up your youth and what your youth is for—trying, exploring, following no one but yourself.
I’m a strong, decisive person, and I’d never give up things I really want for a man.
I’m a bold dream-pursuer, and my best friend simply isn’t. That’s fine. We’re different people.
Except we’re not.
Show me your friends, and I’ll tell you who you are.
“What we are looking for in relationships isn’t really love, it’s familiarity. And the exact same thing applies to friendship.” — Brianna Wiest, author of “101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think.”