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What Happens When You Find The One
Let’s say The One exists. Does lifelong movie love exist also?
“I bet you’d be in the top 5%,” my boyfriend told me with a smile as we were walking home from dinner.
We were crossing Tower Bridge, discussing the concept of The One — is there really such a thing, and if so, how do you know you’ve found him or her.
What we concluded was there is no “one” per se. Instead, there are a handful of people in the world who are one’s suitable mates, and some of them are more suitable than others.
“Well, you better be careful because you’re moving down in my list,” I answered.
“Okay, okay. Top 1%.” Then he kissed me in the middle of the street — something he didn’t do a lot.
According to social psychologists, our conclusion that evening might have helped our relationship. We knew we were compatible, but we also knew there are other compatible people for both of us out there and that if we wanted this to work, we had to work on it.
Research led by Dr C. R. Knee, a social psychologist at the University of Houston has showed that having a strong belief in romantic destiny can be harmful to you and the success of your relationships. He showed that believing you have found ‘The One’ can lead to short…