Well, you went out and said it, Sean, so now I just have to add this:

To all the girls out there, don’t expect to be everything for your man. You’re setting yourself up for failure.

You can’t be as hot as the porn girls, as fun as his friends, have all the positive of his ex, but also other positives that she wouldn’t dream to posses. You can’t be his mother in the kitchen and his perfect lover in the bedroom, and the crazy chick who loves it when he’s going fast.

And that’s okay.

You be you. He likes it or doesn’t like it, that’s his decision. You like you, you love you, and you should always love you just a bit more than you love him. And the same goes for him.

I’m telling you, I adore my husband. He makes me happy, he makes me laugh, he cares for me, he gives me expensive presents (from time to time), supports me career-wise and is a wonderful parent to our son. And I do everything I can for him, too.

BUT I know exactly how my life would look like if we were to ever separate and while it will suck in many ways, it won’t be the end of the world either.

If that’s the way you think, you’ll always be interesting to him. You’ll never become the chick who’s jealous of everything and hangs around his neck, and always puts him first.

And you’ll never try to be everything for him. No, you’ll use this energy to build him up and to build yourself up, and to everything else you’ll say “meh” and shrug it off.