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How To Be An Awesome Woman.
Do you think she exists?
I had a fight with my husband last night.
It happens occasionally: we have a baby and a toddler, I’m busy with work, and he’s at a professional crossroad, which is nerve-racking for both of us.
What was different about this fight was that I held my ground.
I used to be all about holding my ground, but things change when you have a family. You don’t want your kids to hear you fight; you wish you could make him happy and get it over with. You try to understand; you apologize; you make an effort.
Then, yesterday, something snapped. It felt like too much. I’ve been sleep-deprived for three years. I do all I can to be a good mother, wife, and writer. A good everything.
I know I don’t always succeed, but I don’t deserve this shit!
So while he was fuming, I said, “You know what. I won’t allow you to treat me this way, and I’m not listening to you anymore.”
I put my babies to sleep, read for a while and went to bed. I didn’t feel angry or anything. I felt great. I continued to feel great this morning.
I’m awesome, and I won’t let him make me feel less so, I thought to myself while I was in the shower.