Could They Love You and Still Cheat?

And what it means if they have.

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I have a strong opinion about cheating. So strong that I sometimes fear life will ‘punish me’ for it.

I told my husband on our second date that if I ever caught him cheating, I’d leave, regardless of anything (kids, length of the relationship, etc.). We’re 8 years and (almost) 2 kids in our marriage and I stand by it, even though I lately realize how difficult a break up would be, emotionally and financially.

But if you had my perspective, you’d have my strong opinion too.

I’ve never cheated and I haven’t been cheated on that I know of.

But I have been the person someone cheats with. A few times, with different people.

I’m not proud of it, but it’s there anyway, part of my past and me, and I might as well use it to learn my lessons.

And the main takeaway is this: regardless of how much those guys loved their partners, they always cheated by choice.

But why? Why do they cheat?

I remember the first time it happened. I had been in love with the guy for a few months and he had a long-distance relationship that eventually turned into a marriage.