And how to make the best of it.

“When Donald Trump tweeted that he was a “very stable genius,” he was accused of lacking self-awareness by journalists and comedians. But the truth is that no one has perfect self-awareness — you probably believe more than a few things about yourself that are false.” — The Atlantic

To live…

It’s been decades since you locked me in the basement.

You and I need to talk.

Yes, right now. Unequivocally and right now.

Because you’ve seemed to have forgotten about me, and I won’t have it.

When you were little, you and I were best friends. I was the first voice you ever heard, even before your mother’s voice. …

Then we celebrate.

“I can write a bestseller!” I screamed while meditating in our tiny yard.

Then I saw my neighbour’s frightened face peeking in between the bushes. The poor woman was peacefully watering her flowers when she heard a crazy person scream meaningless things to her.

“Sorry,” I mouthed, and we both…

60% of women forgive cheating. What the hell?

According to a 2017 survey, 60% of women had previously forgiven a partner for cheating on them. Due to this forgiving nature of women, they are more likely to be cheated on repeatedly — if a partner doesn’t see any consequences for an affair, they’re likely to do it again.

Fall back in love with your work, plus find the energy for pursuing your dreams.

“That’s not how you should do things.”

“I can’t believe you’re quitting.”

“Now?”

Eyeroll.

These are just some of my former managers’ reactions when I’ve told them I quit.

Yes, I’ve done it a lot. …

Just be where you are.

You haven’t completely lost control over your life until you realize you don’t even have your nights anymore.

It’s what happens with two small children.

When I read creativity advice that tells me to give my mind an unsolvable problem right before I go to sleep, and then my subconscious…

This is how poor we were. If I can do it, you can.

“We don’t have the money to help you furnish your new place,” my grandmother tells me as if I had asked her.

I would never. We don’t have the money is the #1 phrase I remember hearing since I could remember things.

We never lived in a car, and I…

Un-slumping yourself is not easily done.

“When did he wake up this morning?” the nanny asks, 10-month old Alek crying on her hip.

“What are we having for lunch?” My husband works from home too. …

How I surrendered to being loved.

“I don’t understand,” my husband tells me as I’m weeping next to him in the car for the fourth time that day.

To be frank, I don’t either. I’m just mad at him. I’m so mad; I can’t calm down.

He has the money to get me a car now…

Hocus-pocus, I’m an anti-vaxxer.

I live in a country where only 15% of the population has taken a coronavirus vaccine.

Coronavirus vaccines are readily available here. They’re free. Getting a shot takes a few minutes since there are no lines anywhere. And we have a variety of them: AstraZeneca, Pfizer, Moderna, the Johnson& Johnson's…

Maya Sayvanova

When women need a pep talk. I talk work, men, kids, life and writing. Not a woman? Well, we all have our flaws. You’re welcome anyway.

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