I’ve been a little obsessed with negative self-talk lately.

A few months ago, I confronted my worst beliefs about why I’d always been a little fat (and sometimes not so little) and I lost 15 pounds and counting almost effortlessly.

You know how? I just realized those beliefs were nothing but negative self-talk. I stopped telling myself those stupid things and weight loss has never been easier.

Since then, I’ve been applying my new-found knowledge to everything. I’ve been trying to catch negative self-talk disguised as true, and remove it from my system for good.

You wouldn’t believe the results…

Tony Robbins has a lot of great concepts, but my favorite one is this: change happens in an instant.

You think it takes a long time, but it doesn’t. Deciding to change takes a long time. It’s easier to put up with the pain of not being who you’re meant to be, and not doing what you really want to do. It shouldn’t be easier, but it is.

So we wait and we keep hurting, only we find good excuses for it.

I’m okay.

Of course, he loves me.

It’s cool to be single.

At least that job is stable.

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I’ve always had big dreams, but when it came to goals, I’ve never wanted to push myself too hard.

Why would I want to set myself up for failure when I could take things one step at a time?

Instead of setting a goal to lose 27 pounds, which was what I wanted to lose, I decided I’d lose 4 pounds for now and just try to stick to that for a while.

Instead of planning to write a novel in a few months, something many great writers have proven possible, I’d try to write it within a couple of…

I love to credit myself for achieving everything awesome in my life, but if I must be honest, I’m not sure how I did it.

Of course, there are moments of clarity, but overall I have no freakin clue how I got here.

Happy family, considering I come from a “broken home”.

An online family business that allows me and my husband to earn good money, enjoy time with our kids, and even have fun from time to time. Our business actually exploded during the pandemic.

We live in our dream home by the beach.

And I have room for…

I spent 10 years of my life writing and rewriting a manuscript that I scrapped last year.

Sure, meanwhile I did other things too, but I always thought of this manuscript as my life’s work.

You can imagine how disappointed in the result I must’ve been to give up on it. In fact, I’m writing an ebook called “How I Didn’t Write a Book” that lists all the mistakes I did that I never thought were mistakes as I was doing them.

And a big one was forcing creativity.

But this isn’t about me. It’s about you, you creative mastermind.

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“They say, timing is everything. But then they say, there is never a perfect time for anything.”
― Anthony Liccione

I first felt it on New Years' 2018.

This enormous psychological relief came out of nowhere as I was cooking a celebratory dinner. A deep awakening, a realization that I wasn’t going to get pregnant just because I planned my life around being pregnant.

We hear life gurus tell us that we should live as if we already have what we want, so I did. …

The last time I was close to my desired weight was in 2012. I lived in London.

London requires walking for miles on daily basis. I lived on the east side of Central London and to get to the west side, where Oxford Street (shopping!) and Hyde Park (laying on the grass reading a book) were, I had to walk 20 min to the subway, get on it, then get off and walk 20 minutes to reach my destination.

And that’s when my intended walk actually started. This shop, then that shop. It was only after I couldn’t force my…

People change.

Yes, their core remains the same, but their needs, priorities, dreams, and behaviors change.

And they change faster than you think.

What you wanted at 20 probably isn’t what you wanted at 25, which probably isn’t what you wanted at 30.

Even if there’s some resemblance, it’s not the same. Your goals are either slightly different or clearer. They are more or less.

And to accommodate those ever-changing goals, we need to make decisions, small and big, daily.

But we usually take way too long to make them.

Not me.

My former boss used to tell me that…