So that you can get ready.

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Author: KamauxKamau from Kenya

“They say, timing is everything. But then they say, there is never a perfect time for anything.”
Anthony Liccione

I first felt it on New Years' 2018.

This enormous psychological relief came out of nowhere as I was cooking a celebratory dinner. A deep awakening, a realization that I wasn’t going to get pregnant just because I planned my life around being pregnant.

We hear life gurus tell us that we should live as if we already have what we want, so I did. …

Are they the only truths that exist?

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Photo by Ricardo Aguilera on Unsplash

The last time I was close to my desired weight was in 2012. I lived in London.

London requires walking for miles on daily basis. I lived on the east side of Central London and to get to the west side, where Oxford Street (shopping!) and Hyde Park (laying on the grass reading a book) were, I had to walk 20 min to the subway, get on it, then get off and walk 20 minutes to reach my destination.

And that’s when my intended walk actually started. This shop, then that shop. It was only after I couldn’t force my…

Make decisions faster than you change.

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People change.

Yes, their core remains the same, but their needs, priorities, dreams, and behaviors change.

And they change faster than you think.

What you wanted at 20 probably isn’t what you wanted at 25, which probably isn’t what you wanted at 30.

Even if there’s some resemblance, it’s not the same. Your goals are either slightly different or clearer. They are more or less.

And to accommodate those ever-changing goals, we need to make decisions, small and big, daily.

But we usually take way too long to make them.

Not me.

My former boss used to tell me that…

Because your bucket is too far.

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Start writing something by identifying what you want people to do after reading it.”

That’s great writing advice I read on Forge the other day, and it doesn’t surprise me that it comes from a seasoned writer of cold emails.

As a copywriter myself, I know it’s a basic copywriting technique. Copywriting is about making people act.

But I never thought to apply that way of thinking when writing my articles.

I went through my drafts and even my published work the other day and tried to figure it out. What do I want my readers to do? …

The bricks keep coming. What will you do?

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My toddler is in his terrible twos.

He’s not that terrible, but when we’re desperate for some peace, we stick a phone in his hand and let him play a silly little toddler’s game where he takes care of a virtual pet.

One of the things he can do with the pet is to play video games, and one game, in particular, is addictive, it turns out, for kids and moms alike.

It’s nothing revolutionary — basically a brick blasting game where you collect balls and shoot them in the correct trajectory to destroy as many bricks as possible before…

Do it daily.

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Photo by Gabrielle Henderson on Unsplash

I wonder if I’ll ever get divorced.

It’s in my DNA, almost. Not just my parents, but everyone in my family is either divorced, unmarried, or in not-exactly-happy relationships that they stay in because … Well, I don’t know why.

Before I met my husband, I was fiercely independent and honestly didn’t think I’d ever find a happily-ever-after. I imagined I’d have a kid, but that was that.

Now, I am in a happy marriage which I hope never ends.

Still, sometimes it kills me that he’s slower when making decisions, that he doesn’t always trust my judgment, and that…

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Photo by Tony Pham on Unsplash

Youth is overrated.

“If I had to go back to being 18, I’d kill myself.”

That’s what my mother told me when I was 18.

It was a disappointing time in my life. I didn’t get accepted to the university I liked and all my friends did — so as September was approaching, they were getting ready to leave home and I was… Well, wondering what’s next.

It was also the year when I stopped dancing. I had been a dancer for a few years and even considered a career in dance and choreography, but then I injured my knee, had surgery, had…

Believe it or not, it solves everything.

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Photo by Zoltan Tasi on Unsplash

When my freelance practice grew into a small business, I started building a team. I’ll tell you, trying to build a team is the fastest way to discover how many different types of people there are out there.

Experienced and inexperienced.

Confident and not so confident.

Clear about their goals in life and just rolling with the punches.

Young and “seasoned”.

Even if I put their professional skills aside and only focus on their soft skills and background, I still found it hard to decide who I wanted to work with. Ultimately, I let my intuition make the decisions.


Here are 4 steps for getting what you want.

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There’s this interesting quality about humans that other living creatures don’t possess: we can choose to believe in things that aren’t real.

“Homo sapiens rules the world because it is the only animal that can believe in things that exist purely in its own imagination, such as gods, states, money, and human rights.” — Yuval Noah Harari, Sapiens

So when I first watched The Secret, I told myself I choose to believe that there’s some truth to the whole idea that the world gives you what you want if you believe you deserve it and think on the same “energy…

Here’s how I’m “dealing” with pregnancy, in case you feel the same way.

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When we first started trying, it took me 3 years and 3 months to get pregnant with our first son.

During that time, I idolized pregnancy — the time to slowly move from my pre-mom to my mom life. Ahh! It would give me time and focus, and motivation. It would make things even clearer. And everyone would walk in circles around me and worship me.

Well, it didn’t quite work that way. But since I’d waited so long for that magical moment, the hurdles didn’t bother me the first time around. I just noticed them.

When we got pregnant…

Maya Sayvanova

On life and love, and writing.

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